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WHAT KIND OF "PARTNER" IS THE PERSON I MET?

Whether the person you've met is your karmic partner, your soul mate, your twin flame, or your dual flame ultimately doesn't matter. These terms are human-invented, and the learning tasks are similar for all of these "partners," as long as you have to resolve and heal certain limiting thought and behavior patterns. There are only a few differences, mainly in the intensity of the feelings you have for one partner or the other and how strongly your limiting patterns come to light. Accordingly, your learning tasks will be triggered to a greater or lesser extent.

In my observations, a karmic partner (incidentally, we are karmically connected to all the people we meet or interact with) triggers the weakest learning tasks and feelings. Karmic partners are often sent first to prepare us or to prepare us for stronger partners. Soulmates are more intense than karmic partners, twin souls more intense than soulmates, and dual souls are the most intense thing one can experience in such a developmental process. The term "dual soul," however, is often used and seems to have become fashionable. In my long career as a counselor, I have found that twin souls and dual souls are very rare, and dual souls even rarer than twin souls. This is because most twin and dual souls live in the spiritual world and assist in the process from there. One can only have one dual soul (as the word "dual" suggests) and one twin soul (twins are always two); Otherwise it would be a triplet soul or quadruplet soul, which I have never encountered in my ten years of counseling.

Since the learning tasks remain the same for all of these "partners," and I don't want to categorize them, as that would be a judgment—one partner isn't worse or better than the other—I use the umbrella term "soulmate" on my website, in my books, and in my videos. Meeting soulmates is primarily about spiritual and personal development. For these reasons, various learning tasks arise that both soulmates may need to master, even if they still have certain hindering thought and behavior patterns. If these learning tasks are addressed and implemented, the connection with the soulmate will progress more easily and harmoniously, and the goal that both have in their soul plan can be achieved more quickly. I know that many people don't like to hear that there are learning tasks to be mastered, but we are all here on earth to develop and mature. If we do not evolve, we will remain stagnant and life will not only become boring, but all difficult and unpleasant situations will repeat themselves and the suffering will never end, as we will not be able to attract anything else if we always behave the same way.

Of course, we can develop further without a soul mate, but this will likely be slower, as we often cannot access our limiting patterns or trigger them ourselves. To trigger our limiting thought and behavior patterns, we often need a partner. When we meet a soul mate, our patterns are usually triggered very strongly, often much more than with "normal partners" or partners we have met in the past.

What are, for example, hindering thought and behavior patterns? These are patterns that seek to hinder our further development. Patterns that stand in our way, preventing us from taking the easy way out or further nourishing our inflated ego. These can be, for example:

  • Doubt
  • Fear of loss
  • jealousy
  • Lack of self-esteem
  • Victim role
  • Need for love
  • impatience
  • Fear of true or intense feelings
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of being rejected
  • Self-abandonment
  • Fear of not being loved
  • Sacrifice
  • Influence from others (often from one’s personal environment)
  • Clinging to the familiar or to certainties instead of following the soul plan and the heart or intuition
  • Deceiving yourself (lying to yourself) to protect yourself from new experiences and the truth
  • Seeking external confirmation instead of finding it within
  • Resistance and rejection instead of trust and acceptance

These patterns must be recognized and overcome in order to develop personally and harmonize the relationship with one's soul mate.